Why is Cancer man ignoring me?
What to do when a Cancer man suddenly withdraws from me?
Cancerian male acting distant is what you may find very familiar, especially if you are in a relationship with a Cancer.
Due to his personality traits, this guy is super sensitive and shy.
He often wears on a protective shell and shows up with an aloof appearance. How open he is depends mainly on his trusting levels toward others.
See also: When a Cancer man is done with you…
With a great big heart, it’s hard to deal with rejection as well as any kind of situation that could hurt his feelings.
So if he becomes nonchalant, there must be some reasons behind.
In the article ?Cancer Man Ignoring Me’, I’m going to discuss about your partner’s behavior in love relationships and tips to handle his disappearing acts.
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When a Cancer Man Ignores You?
Keep in mind that Cancer man cannot cope with confrontation well.
Therefore, the moment he’s ignoring you, the first reason is probably because you have said or done something that upset him. He won’t let you know; instead, he tends to stay quiet for awhile but it will not last for a long term.
He is not the type that will give you the cold shoulder forever. But if you don’t find a solution for this issue, misunderstandings will arise between you and him more and more.
This man will open up and even share his emotions when he completely feels comfortable with you.
Nonetheless, there are times when he may throw a fit in protest to whatever making him upset about rather than icing you out. In the situation for him to ignore you, then what you did to him would probably be over the line.
In case you have a crush on him initially but he has no idea and acts distant towards you, then don’t mind finding a way to let him know. Cancer men are sometimes dense in recognize a woman’s feelings.
He really needs a sign to make sure whether or not you want him.
What to Do If a Cancer Man Ignores You?
If you want to date a Cancer male, then you need to be optimistic.
As a person with Cancer soul, he often brings what called ?Cancer man disappearing act‘ on the surface. Very sensitive and unable to handle criticism, he easily gets unsatisfied and disappointed if being reproached.
For a long-term relationship with this guy, you need to know how to love him the right way. The Cancerian man enjoys being pampered a lot as well as sweet conversations; also give him sincere and nice complements.
The truth is: he will get back to you later if he’s truly into you.
Below, I’ve offered a list of tips to handle a Cancer man gone quiet:
- Take the initiative in making phone calls, sending emails and planning a date rather than waiting for your Cancer man. Don’t expect him to set the first move as he prefers the passive role in a relationship.
- Honestly express your feelings frequently and sincerely toward him, even if you are sensing anxious and fear deep inside. Emotional and sensitive, he appreciates topics related to feelings. Be more open to him and the emotional level between you two will grow stronger.
- Give him sentimental gifts because this guy needs the reassurance from you. Remember to make him feel loved and treasured most of the time. He really appreciates gifts that you prepare with fully meaningful devotion.
So rather than waiting your Cancer man to reply or return with a normal treatment, you should be the one take the first move and look up for things to do to heal your relationship with him.
What Does He Think When Ignoring You?
1. He is stressful and not want to tell anyone
Cancer man may not a person of drama, but he tends to run or hide when a major stress occurring in his life.
Or, what you are doing to him provides him no safety and security ? 2 important elements in a relationship with a Crab. Put it simply, understanding this man well is a need, since you have to make him feel secure before requiring him to care for you.
A Cancer may become stressful due to a number of reasons.
Like:
- Suddenly losing his job
- Having problems with his family members
- Failing his exams or failing to get a job
- Feeling pressured with his current relationships
As much as you want your Cancer man to be honest with you, then be real to him.
2. He is not aware of his ignoring act
As I told you above, Cancer man is reserved and tends to stay in his own shell. Therefore, maybe it’s just because he is not interested in talking. Sometimes, he is not even aware that he’s ignoring you.
Don’t jump to the conclusion quickly!
He rarely communicates with you doesn’t mean he does not love you anymore.
Whenever you notice a drastic change in his attitude with you, please give him his private space to think about everything (his current thoughts, his feelings to you, etc.) rather than forcing him to explain.
3. He is afraid of calling you due to his own insecurity
His fragile ego is the main reason making him unable to accept the idea of showing his vulnerable side to his loved one in any shape of form.
Most Cancer men are insecure yet they will never admit they’re insecure.
Your Cancer craves for a relationship that can provide him both safety and security. He doesn’t like getting involved in situations that could threaten him or put him in harmful ways. That’s why he is likely to avoid any conflict.
Even if he really likes you, he will try to not be the one taking the initiative.
Final Thoughts
Unexpectedly, a Cancer man is a tenacious and strong-willed person.
Don’t get worried too much when he acts distant. Simply give him time to arrange everything in his mind and do your own stuff.
So if you want to have your Cancer man for keeps, you are advised to give him a peaceful and comfortable relationship. Importantly, always show up whenever he needs you. Love him with sincere and honesty and you can be sure to obtain the most fulfilling of relationships.
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Hey Laura!
Thank you so much for the reply, it really help me though.. i?m the girl you replied from above the taurus girl. here?s an update:-
He responded to me saying he want to have a time break again for 1 year. Because he want to accomplish his goal and he said he cant do it by having me in his time. He said he still love me and need me which makes him hard to let me go, therefore he said ?we still have each other and text, but not as frequent as before? i feel like he lost interest in me. It feels like he want to break up but he couldnt say it. And based from your answer Laura, yes we did talked about future before and we met each other family already.
Here my responds to him ?What do you mean by ?i feel i will not accomplish it with you having my time?? Let me put some example. You can text or go out see your friends during day or night time, they?re taking your a bit of time but when it comes to me, you think it?ll take a bit of the time as well?
Meaning you can?t handle or put some effort through our commitment relationship?
And away from each other until our next anniversary? 1 year? It seems too long for me. When we go through hard time again in the future, is this how we?re gonna do? Away from each other?
I want to be your strength when you simple can?t cope, i want to be your best when youre not at your best, i dont want you to think that you ever have to do this by yourself.
One more thing Irfan, when we?re married this is not what i imagine how we handle when we?re facing a hard times. We?re going to end up face to face each other and discuss anyway. This is where we learn from now so in the future we can face to face no matter how ugly life throws. One of the reason why i want to meet
If you think you disagree of how valuable am i & you can?t give me a simple request that i need from above, leave me. Find someone who can be open relationship with you and let you have your freedom without commitment.
If you decide to leave, it?s too bad that you don?t think how precious my love that i have for you.
The decision is yours. Don?t take too much time to think/reply. Time is ticking. Either youre gonna waste it or value it what?s in front of you?
I?m very disappointed with him..
Hello Nadirah,
I hate to be cliche but I can?t help but think whatever will be, will be. When things don?t work out like this it just simply was not meant to be and I think there is someone better for you. Someone who will not make you wonder like this. Also, someone who will not make you feel like you have to give an ultimatum which can be a turn off for a lot of people.
oh my god! me and my long distance cancer man was being official 1 week ago . And now he said he’s not feeling good , so i said i let him rest well and told him , “i’m here always , i’m not going somewhere” 12hrs with out talking , omg!!!! if missing him can kill , i’m dead 12hrs ago .. GOD! i miss him so much , is this how cancer men can do to their partners , like omg , i’m too attached
Hi dear,
When Cancer men start falling hard for some one and are not very sure abt there feelings or how things are going to be in future they decide to distance themselves for a while. so its very normal. Instead of taking things in very different direction why don’t u try thinking that may be after distancing himself he started felling your importance and missed you.
But be careful don’t give your heart all at once?be calm and let the things flow.
Sincere!
Hello everyone I’m aquarius my men is cancer sign he was sweet at the beginning he proposed too fast to marry him to be he’s bride and then he lied and dissapear came back and dissapear again he told me he miss me so much after 7 days he was very jelous and he told me he loves me over and over now he dissapear again almost 7 days I don’t know what to believe I need help please ty
Hi Carmen,
Cancerians are totally complicated fellows. They will make sure persons receive their thought but will never ever accept it. They will choose to be alone rather than facing it. And you can never ever force them because no matter what how your feeling are they will never pay heed to it and will definitely close on you. So if they say no to anything you must not do it otherwise be ready to lose them.
These are idiots who never care about what a common sense is?
A cancerian who makes simple complicated.
Sincere!
Hi Laura…I have been dating my cancer man for one year but known him for almost 20 years. We both realized we had crushes on each other early but the timing was always off so we just stayed friends. Finally we got the opportunity to take a chance and it was amazing for a good 10 months. He treated me like a princess. However it seems the moment I became more loving towards him he became distant. I’d text him and tell him how much I loved him and how happy I was that we finally got together. At first he’d tell me he’s fine with how I felt and was happy I felt this way. He was very shy when we first got together and seemed a bit insecure. We spoke every single night for hours, have the same interests, and seem very compatible. He told me a lot about his childhood and how rough it was. He has issues with his family and siblings and it’s due to envy and such. He’s a very handsome man and could get any woman he desired just by flashing a smile. However I’m pretty attractive as well and he loves the way I look! Anyways I am a scorpio and am very strong with my emotions so when he started to become distant I felt it. He always called me when heading to work or whenever he was traveling and when we are together all we do is laugh and play. Now he’s not calling me as much. I told him how I felt and asked if he felt the same… if anything has changed. He says nothing has changed. I asked if he was seeing someone else… he says it’s not what I think but won’t tell me what it is. I asked if he still found me sexy… he says yes. When we finally do speak I’m the one calling him but one night just recently he got more deep with his conversation about his mom and dad and told me some bad stuff they did. Also mentioned some other stuff. But then it goes back to the weird distance. If he doesn’t call then I don’t because it seemed whenever I called he wont answer. When I don’t call then he’ll do something like go on my social media and like a pic of mine knowing I’ll see it. Because he had also stopped liking my stuff prior to all this distant behavior. We live in the same building so I tend to run into him. After a night of no communication I saw him as I was leaving to work… he was coming home. Instead of trying to meet him to kiss him goodbye, I went to my bus and waved to him goodbye. Then he texted me telling me he hopes I have my umbrella? Another time I left him alone he went on FB to heart a pic I posted days before. Then ran into me in the morning as I was heading to the store and wanted to walk with me. Mind you he hasn’t initiated a conversation for at least a week. It’s like when I stop pursuing him he does some little thing to get my attention. But the minute I go back to letting my guard down… back to the distance. What do I do? Do I continue this dance or do I just cut my losses. It’s torture because I just want things to be how they were only a few months ago. Yet I keep thinking if I stay vigilant he’ll come around. Please advise me!
Hi Viola,
Give him little attention.
People want things we can’t have.
So when you give him little attention he will notice and want more.
Then you just fall in his frame, and give him attention to him.
You also gotta think like your boyfriend what does hé like doing.
Maybe go to the cinema if he likes movies, or go to a theme park if he likes rollercoasters.
Best thing you can do… is think like him.
You can think like him also by finding out what he is most interested in recently; that’s what you can do to make him less distant.
But probably chances are, he has lost interest and is looking for a way out. In fact, he is likely already seeing someone else and trying to figure out the best way to break it off. Just confront him and get it over with. Understand that it is unlikely you will be able to salvage what you have. And it may not be worth it to try. Prepare yourself for moving on with your life.
Sincere
Hi are u still helping people with this topic?? I could really use it!
I dated a cancer man for a month..we kicked it off fast. He can’t over stayed with me 2 weeks straight boned with my kids, great connection and conversation and the love making omg!! He was trying to pass a truck driving test that was his passion I helped him with it a lot. He failed the exam a few times and his learning guide we had got lost. He asked me to take him home and completely cut me off. I’ve called and texted nothing! I tried from another phone he responded said he will into me he just needs to make money…I asked when will I see him again … Nothing! He won’t reply, when he was with me he always kissed me was so a affectionate I miss him it’s been a week I want him back so bad! I know he was into me I don’t understand. We never said we loved each other but I’m in love with him. Will he come back?? And how long will he stay away?? I want to go by his house is that a good idea?
Hi Julie,
I would say that if you really miss him, because you really love him and need him back, you just simply: meet him and admit wholeheartedly your love for him. i am sure he will come back 🙂
Sincere!
I’m a cancer woman, very emotional, very insecure and scared. I met my cancer guy on a plane (about 5 months ago), we hit it off pretty quickly, he gave me his phone number and we texted each other the whole time we were traveling. When we got back to the same city, we started seeing each other. After almost 3 months he pulled a disappearing act because he had a personal issue (although he was sending one text per week, telling me that he wanted to talk to me or missed me), at that point I tried to give him time and space but texted him 2/3 times a week that I was there for him no matter what. He came back and was really happy! Almost 3 weeks after that I finally told him I have feelings for him and he told me the same, 3 days after that he called me and we had a great amazing conversation, talking about me meeting his friends and potentially his family, moving together, and he told me that I’m amazing (he’s said said the entire time we were together). I texted him and called the day after as it was gonna be a long weekend, but had no response, the same day after that, and the day after that, where all of the sudden I left a voice message (I’ve never done this before), saying that I was worried because I didn’t know anything about him (but also told him I was desperate, so my message overall could have been taken as needy and desperate)… and haven’t gotten a response yet, he got upset or hurt with me because I was too pushy / needy… it’s been 10 days already, and I have not heard from him. I know he’s checking his messages, but he’s choosing to ignore me. I’m not really sure why he’s behaving this way because everything seemed so perfect during our last conversation :(… he came back the first time, but I’m not really sure if he’ll do it this time because he hasn’t said anything for so long… he’s always been very affectionate, and I’ve always told him how amazing he is (he’s younger than me)… I don’t know what to do, should I text him again apologizing and telling him that I’m still here? or stop doing it at all? I know his personality, but I’m afraid he won’t come back…
Hi Karen,
It’s ok to be afraid, worried on whether he will say yes or not.
It’s what makes it real.
If you didn’t have those feelings, then you’d not love him. You need to have these feelings and I bet you, he will have them too. When even a guy is angry, it’s because he cares, he still loves the woman. If he was never angry, didn’t behave irritationally when breakup happens, then he didn’t feel much for you. Guys in love do crazy things that makes you wonder why.
So accept these feelings and accept them because they are part love. Also, see it that you are actually saying yes to yourself for taking the step. That you’re worthy of whatever you go for and you are giving yourself a chance.
When he says yes, he’s also saying yes in giving himself a chance with you.
Guys, also want a hero, not just women.
Maybe you doing this brings a lesson for him and sees you differently than before. That you really do love him because no girl fought for him way you have.
So try because you believe in what you had together and can have again.
You can only try. You’re feelings of afraid, is part of love. Let it give you courage.
Sincere!